Maid of Honor: Duties and Jobs

Many Maids of Honor (MOH) don't know what their "job" really is. Below is some information on what your MOH's duties are. So if you are a bride, forward this to your MOH, and MOH's get out your pens and paper:

1) Support your Bride.
The most important job a MOH has is to be there for the bride. You need to listen to her blow off steam and complain if she needs to; you need to listen to her worries and fears. It is important to keep her excited and keep her as stress free as possible. You are a huge part of her support system, it is your job to be there for her. Don't ever complain to the bride. If you need to blow off steam, do it with someone else.

2) Going to Appointments.
The MOH needs to try and go with the bride to as many appointments as possible. This gives the bride moral support and lets her share her big moments with her best friend. I know we all have jobs or places to be, but try and work times that you can go with your bride. What kind of appointments are there? Well, there is the cake, flowers, D.J/ band, dresses, venue, etc... Try and make as many as you can.

3) Get to know the Planner.
It is important if your bride is working with a planner, that you get acquainted with them. The planner will be at all the appointments with the bride also, so it is important you introduce yourself. We always like to get to know the bridal party as much as we can. The MOH can be a great resource for the planner as she is a huge support system for the bride.

4) Party!
Yes, it is typically the MOH's job to plan the shower and bachelorette party. The bride might have more than one shower, so it is important that you coordinate that with the brides family and friends. Typically the cost of the shower is on the MOH; talk to the bride about her expectations and work from there. The bachelorette party can be held by all the bridesmaids so costs can be split, but it is the job of the MOH to keep it all on track. Make sure when gifts are given, you keep a list for the bride.

5) Be a Resource.
If the bride asks your opinion, give it but don't overstep. Ask the planner how you can help. Make sure the bride feels comfortable coming to you when she needs something or when she just needs to talk. Basically just "be there."

6) Wedding Day.
You will need to be there early to help the bride and keep her calm. The planner and or officiant will explain your duties during the ceremony so be prepared. At the reception you will need to give a toast; make sure you have something planned. Finally, the wedding party needs to STAY for the whole reception until the bride and groom leave, no cutting out early!

Being a MOH is a big responsibility. Keep a checklist with duties to help you stay organized. Be aware of the costs associated with the job (dress & parties.) It seems like a lot, and it is, but it can be fun and memorable. Try to have fun with it and remember your bride chose you, that means a lot.